That’s me.A qualifier;There is no such thing as a homophobe or same sex ‘marriage.’ We’ll be getting to that. For now, I’m going to talk about the evil grandmother part. I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life. Things i terribly regret now.
I should have been a better daughter growing up. We had terrific parents.No excuse for me.Then we lost both our parents. I made my dad’s funeral. Unfortunately i did not make my mothers. I was blessed though to have the opportunity to be with both of them in their time of need. I was there every single day with them but that was because i was afforded the opportunity. Not everyone in the family had that opportunity. They would have,if they could have. When i didn’t make mom’s funeral-a horrible mistake-i made a lot of people angry. People who were ALREADY angry anyway. They had every right to be. I can’t take it back.It can’t be undone.I am not going to get into the details of what happened. It’s done,did and over. I remember the time i spent with mom and dad while we had them. Good enough. I beat myself over the head about it long enough. If people are angry they have to live with it. My parents were blessed in being able to see their own children grow up;then their grandson and they did get to spend time with their 2 great grandchildren.Not everyone is given that chance.For some reason it was made known to me that i was not included in mom’s will. It wasn’t necessary.Mom and i had that discussion while she was alive and we were BOTH fine with her decision. It wasn’t a great shock and it was not a big deal. The one item i did hope for was the statue of the Blessed Virgin Mary they had for years. I repainted that statue for dad then we moved it from the backyard to the front porch. I heard it ended up at our local Catholic Church but we were not able to find it there. I remember that statue because it was in the backyard from the time we were kids.Our parents were devout Catholics. They would be floored, just like i am now.
I do totally regret the life i lived for a long time. It had to hurt my parents.I let no grass grow under my feet as the expression goes. Now though i have nothing to be ashamed of. My husband and i have been married for 23yrs. Not without difficulties but we’re still hanging in.I returned to the Church after some 20 plus years. I live with regrets but a clear conscience;it’s possible to have both.
One thing parents can take heart in. If you’ve given your kids a solid background and they lose their way; they will come back.
Unfortunately something has happened that is disturbing to me.I can live with my grand children disowning me.I get that.My granddaughter is one beautiful young lady inside and out. However, i am floored that she is so accepting of the ‘gay’ lifestyle.Not that she is herself;but i see her tweeting support for same sex marriage and relationships. She’s written things such as ‘love is love.’ I feel that she is too naive when it comes to the homosexual lifestyle.
Marriage is between one man/one woman for life.
We don’t have to be religious people to know that; natural law makes it clear. Marriage is unity.No unity-no marriage.
Consummation or consummation of a marriage,is the first act of sexual intercourse between two people.Once you redefine marriage, marriage has no meaning at all. How does that affect my marriage personally? It doesn’t but that’s not the point. It has a detrimental affect on society as a WHOLE.It is also true that in a marriage that is not consummated,by law, it can be used as grounds for divorce.
Two people of the same gender cannot consummate their relationship. Some of the practices of homosexuals are sodomy which is still against the law in many states,”fisting”,oral sex and nothing more than mutual masturbation.NAMBLA has been hoping for years that homosexual marriage would be made ‘legal’ so they can get a foot in the door. While we can feel for people with the DISORDERED attraction i honestly feel that the push for acceptance of ‘gay’ practices is nothing short of diabolical. It’s a mockery of love.
Rarely are two people of the same gender exclusive in their relationships even after a so called marriage.
I’ve seen tweets that have nothing to do with ‘love is love.’ If you can’t tell the difference between love and lust there’s a problem. I definitely know the difference and definitely know how you can end up having a dark and blinded intellect. You can’t see the truth when it’s right in front of you.
Does this look like love?
Bisexual? Indiscriminate casual sex.We have a very confused self indulgent generation on the horizon.
Followed by an example. The answer is yes they are and that’s the point. ALL these acts inflict damage on the sanctity of marriage.When you redefine marriage it has no meaning at all and that is incredibly destructive. It will do more harm to marriage than most of the things that inflict damdage. Any of this match up with ‘love is love’ ?
I’m sorry but same sex ‘marriage’ makes a mockery of everything that marriage is. I’m sorry but children need a mother and father. I know that there are situations where children end up with a single parent .the question about the role of the male or female in a same sex relationship points out the fatal flaw. The best 2 people of the same gender can do is mimic the relationship between husband and wife or mother and father. The homosexual lifestyle is fraught with hyper-sexuality,confused gender roles and exhibitionism.
How can anyone make the argument that children don’t need a mother and father?
How can anyone make the argument that gender roles aren’t crucial to the development of a child?
I’m sorry but that’s just nonsense. If a child-not fully developed on several levels-expresses the wish to be both a boy and girl then the obligation of the parent or parents is to explain to them that you can’t be both. That is the reality.
Part of being a child is magical or wishful thinking.
Magical thinking is the attribution of causal relationships between actions and events which cannot be justified by reason and observation.
Magical thinking may lead people to believe that their thoughts by themselves can bring about effects in the world or that thinking something corresponds with doing it.
Part of growing up,over time, is learning to cope with reality and it’s up to parents to help their children develop those skills.Our parents would never have indulged our wishful thinking.Sometimes we were simply told no.
As a Catholic i can feel empathy for people with the disordered attraction;
The Catechism states:
Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience sexual attraction to others of the same sex. Although homosexuality has taken many forms, its psychological source remains largely unexplained. Catholic Tradition (based on biblical texts) has always taught that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered” (Congregation for Doctrine of Faith). They are against the natural law, are closed to the gift of life, and do not proceed from a genuine sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.
Homosexual persons are called to chastity and to a self-mastery to gain inner freedom. If supported by disinterested friendship, prayer, and the sacraments they can approach Christian perfection.
Understand that saying ‘love is love’ when what you’re really talking about is lust doesn’t help one single person struggling with the disorder or sinking into the gay lifestyle. Sorry to say I’m not homophobe. Nobody is afraid of ‘gay’ people.It’s nonsense. I know what is morally right and wrong. I know,if nothing else, that you don’t have to be a religious person to grasp what is natural or disordered. I know that ANYONE can make mistakes-even grave ones-and get a new start.
I know that most of these people going into the gay lifestyle are going to be anything BUT happy. I’m certain that people who accept the gay lifestyle and so called marriage have no idea what’s really going on.
When you say ‘love is love’ it’s like saying ‘rain is rain.’ It’s a meaningless statement.
I know someone was praying for me. Maybe it was all those rosaries grandma offered every day.
Everyone has hope. The trick is to start living as if life is short. (It is).Bishop Fulton J Sheen understood love:
Eventually we will all have to give an account of our life. That was my wake up call-once you realize that you’d be amazed at how quickly you get your life in order. I don’t care what my son said-he’s entitled to the feelings he has. He has a right to be angry.When feelings run that deep it’s a waste of time and energy to try and change them. Better to accept. Our lives go on. I’m too old to worry about things that i can’t change. However, i do think very highly of him. Always have,always will. No matter what gets taken away from me-by design or otherwise-that goes with me no matter what.Two things i remember from years ago. “Haunted” by them. Son always had a canary about coffee stains on spoons. NOW when i do dishes i have to make absolutely certain there are none. Mom had a thing about corners on the bed, a wrinkle free sheet , a well made bed.Yep,i’ve gotten that fussy. She had a thing about you picking up your clothes. i can’t stand having clothes laying around. For that matter,anything laying around.
I’m not judging anyone. I certainly don’t have the right to do that-and given where i’ve been i have no room to talk. What I am saying is that we have to see things for what they are-at least admit they’re immoral if not disordered and unnatural. I think the greatest mistake our generation made was confusing love with self indulgence and hedonism.
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